Encouragement for the overwhelmed mom
After my second baby (16 months younger than the first), I entered a valley of young motherhood. I had not expected it to be this taxing, this demanding. There was hardly time to just sit and “breathe.” I felt like I was drowning in it all. Having viewed myself as a capable woman, it was hard to understand how now I was doing worse that “less capable” women. (It was a blow to my pride.)
How does one manage this stage of life? How does one keep from getting overwhelmed? I set out looking for answers.
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“Vitamins,” many said. And yes, the multivitamins did help my brain, moods, etc. But still…
“Routines,” another crowd claimed. And learning a little bit about baby/toddlers routines did help to keep the girls happier and give me a bit more time sometimes.
“Take time for yourself,” was supposedly another secret to keep from burning out. That one frustrated me. Some days I hardly had a minute without being cried for, called for, or climbed on. Time for myself? How?
Did Jesus have answers?
I started thinking about His life. He faced burnout and needed time alone too. Sometimes He went apart to pray with the disciples, but when the needy crowd came to them He said, “Feed them.”
When He needed sleep on the ship and the fearful disciples came to Him, He said, “Peace, be still.” When the need arose, He put His needs aside and found strength elsewhere.
Yes, we need time for ourselves, or with the heavenly Father. But hungry young children need food, and in those moments God can send us the grace we need to feed them.
Sometimes with short nights and all, we need sleep. Dishes and such can wait, but when the baby cries again, we can get our strength from the Grace That Is Sufficient.
I read of another busy, overwhelmed mom who was told by an older friend that this is just where God wants us – in need of Him. That way He can show Himself strong in us.
I used to dream of being a mom. Then I hit this unexpected valley. Probably we moms don’t talk about it enough – because it is humbling to admit so much struggle, when it is what many of us most wanted to do, and we know some others who would love to have little children and can’t. But as I asked around, it helped to find out that I was not the only one struggling like this. A lot of young moms feel the same way.
As I came out of this valley my prayer was “Restore into me the joy (of motherhood), and renew a right spirit within me.” Take away my complaints and self pity. Give me strength for this task, and help me truly enjoy my children.
I am sure that one day when I look back from Heaven’s gates, these tiring days will fade away. It will be worth it all. (And I suspect that when I just have older children, I will miss baby days.😄)
Take your vitamins, learn about routines, and find time for yourself and God. But on days when that is impossible, find your strength in God who supplies our needs.
Restore into me the joy…
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