7+ Thoughtful Care Ideas for After Someone's Miscarriage

A miscarriage can be a really hard thing for any mom to go through. No matter what some people may say, or how early it may be, the pain of losing a baby that was loved is hard.

While we can’t take away the pain, we can show we care. It can be in the simplest ways or with something bigger like a care package, a meal, or a bunch of flowers. Here are some ideas for you to show you care if you know someone who has gone through a pregnancy loss recently.

It’s the Thought That Counts

I had a miscarriage between my second and third daughters. (You can read more of the story here.) While I know that it wasn’t as hard for me as it is for some other moms, it was still hard.

Sometimes I think of that baby and wish I knew who he/she was. And while it no longer affects me much, I know that over the time of the miscarriage it meant a lot when someone showed they cared for me.

It was in the smallest things that I found comfort. Messages of care, some slippers from my mom, a hug, and the friends who drove out of their way to bring me a bouquet of flowers all meant so much to me during that difficult time. I treasure those memories.

Send a Message

One thing anyone can do is send a simple, personal message or email expressing your care. It doesn’t cost more than a bit of time, and it can mean a lot to a mom going through a hard time.

You may think it doesn’t mean anything or is rather insignificant, but I assure you that knowing someone is thinking of us and taking the time to write a message means almost more than anything else in the world.

Make a Card

You can make or buy a simple card to mail or take over. These can mean a lot for a mom to see as she is recovering, because a miscarriage can be rough both physically and emotionally..

Again, it doesn’t have to be much, just a special touch of love.

Gift Baskets or Miscarriage Care Packages

I think gift baskets make some of the sweetest gifts. They are usually filled with a variety of comforting items, and they can be fun to go through and see what all you get.

You can make your own gift basket or care package including things like a teddy bear, bath bombs, some favorite snack, a miscarriage memorial item or an ultrasound photo picture frame, some cozy socks or slippers, a candle, lip balm, a heating pad or some other comforting items, or any other thoughtful gift you can think of.

You can also order ready-made gift baskets or care packages through some place like Amazon (find the link here), especially if you are a long way away from the mother or family going through the loss. This can be a great way to show your care.

Gifts

Of course, a variety of gifts isn’t always necessary. You could just find a simple comforting item or memorial gift that will be a special touch. My mom brought me a pair of slippers over the time of my miscarriage, and they were a special warm touch to put on on cold nights. I used them till they were well worn out.

Depending on the situation you could also get something for each family member. Maybe the siblings are grieving the loss too and could use some cheer.

If you want some miscarriage gift ideas to order, you can find them here.

Take a Meal

For me, and probably for most moms, getting a hot meal, or even a meal kit, delivered is a special treat, especially during a tough time. If you can and would like to do that, I am sure the family would be grateful, especially as moms often need to recover from a miscarriage and they may have a hard time getting a good meal together for the family.

Warm soups do a lot to comfort sore hearts!

Flowers

Flowers are often a special touch and the perfect gift idea. I will never forget the family who went out of their way to bring me a bouquet of flowers over the time of my miscarriage. They add cheer and show you care, but don’t end up cluttering some spot in the house.

Flowers or roses can be a special touch to show you care when a mom/family is grieving.

Gift Cards

If you don’t know what a mom would like exactly, consider giving her a gift card as that might be the perfect way for her to get something that she would enjoy. Sometimes just a bit of pampering helps comfort a grieving heart.

It could be for some shop, or even for a restaurant or something like that.

Go for a Visit

This may depend on the mom, as some women might prefer you didn’t stop by. But for many women I am sure they would be happy to have someone stop in and check up on them. You don’t have to say much, just share of yourself and your support.

Maybe you could help out with something if the mom is still recovering. Are there dishes in the sink that need to be washed? Does the floor need a sweeping? Are there other children that would love some attention while mom is recovering?

There are so many little things we can do that can make a big difference for someone.

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Take a Moment

I just want to mention again that if you know someone who has recently gone through a miscarriage, take a moment for them. This applies for any other kind of hardship as well. By caring, we help lighten the load for others.